Family is everything, but there’s no denying the power of our female friendships. It’s the positive, strong, big-hearted women in your life that will inspire you, lift you, lend you clothes (and tampons), make you laugh, and support you wholeheartedly when the chips are down. We need them, and they need you right back.
So, what better way to celebrate the essence of this fun and soul-nurturing dynamic than by devouring some books all about it. Here are three of our favourite reads on female friendship and why it truly is an awesome thing.
For a totally honest take on friendship
Everything I Know About Love By Dolly Alderton
What may have started off as a book about love, dating and sex, turned into the ultimate millennial memoir, documenting all that’s grubby and great about growing into a woman and the highs of having a female tribe at your side. Journalist Dolly Alderton, one half of the High Low podcast (and a designer in Pink Parcel’s “IN ON” campaign), has penned a confessional page-turner that’s both heartbreakingly moving and wildly funny, concluding that for every relationship that goes awry, it’s always, always your mates that you can truly rely on. Binge-read this in a weekend and then thrust it into the hands of your favourite gal pals.
“It’s laughing until you wheeze. It’s waking up in a country neither of you have been in before. It’s walking along the street together on a Saturday night and feeling like an entire city is just yours. It’s a big, beautiful, ebullient force of nature.”
For heart-warming friendship feels
The F Word By Lily Pebbles
In this quick and easy read, YouTuber Lily Pebbles challenges a culture that largely pits women against each other and instead explores and celebrates the wonderfully complex and emotional bonds of female friendship, over the different stages in our lives. If you’re a fan of her videos, Lily gives you a sneak-peak into her most personal relationships and her thoughts on the women in her life, with a handful of sensible tips thrown in for good measure – from how to avoid toxic friendships to the dos and don’ts of a first friend date (because yes, that’s so a thing).
“No two are the same but we look to them all for the same things: companionship, trust, support and for someone to make you laugh when all you can think to do is cry.”
For a sociological standpoint on the girl crew
Text Me When You Get Home by Kayleen Schaefer
Hands-up if the last thing you say after a night out with the girls is "text me when you get home”. Of course you do, after all it's this underpinning of care, concern and solidarity that the foundations of our friendships are built on. In her book, journalist Kayleen Schaefer champions the bonds we have with our girl buddies and gives a completely new sociological perspective on the way we see our friends today. Through personal anecdotes, interviews with dozens of other women, and a close look at female friendships throughout history, she validates the absolute importance of a creating and maintaining a girl squad or one female soulmate. For anyone who considers their WhatsApp girl group chats as *life*, this one’s totally relatable.
“Our friendships – the ones we’re living every day – can stand on their own. They are supportive, enthralling, entirely wonderful, and, often all we need.”